Surviving a social media attack. It seems trite to say, like it means just getting through it, but social media attacks can quickly lead to mental health problems, suicidal thoughts, and a feeling of hopelessness. Every child who has been in school for more than a year has received education regarding cyber-bullying. By middle school, they’re all well-versed on empathy and digital citizenship. Very few adults have this level of education and awareness drilled into them, and we see the lack of care in action happen daily. 
 
When you see a business or person attacked on social media, it’s easy to join in the frenzy. We all need to be better. 

Remember a few things:

  • It’s rare that someone tells the whole story. Very rare.
  • We are all flawed beings. It’s the nature of being human. Would you want to be the target of an attack?
  • Moving a post you didn’t make, to a review site, or a local group, is just a dick move. Don’t be a drama llama.
  • If you see someone being attacked, don’t jump in. It just creates problems for yourself. People who are willing to attack one person, will not hesitate to attack you too. Because we tend to travel in social groups who hold the same values as us, a person who is willing to wage a social media attack likely has friends ready and willing to fuel the fire.
  • Send a private message to the person being attacked. Or better yet, book business or coffee with them and help them move forward.
  • Be willing to apologize.

If you’re the target of an attack:

  • Own your mistake if necessary, but don’t stay there.
  • If it’s your business, consider taking other steps.
  • You’ll be okay. It doesn’t feel like it. But it WILL be okay.
  • Stay high when they go low. 
  • Don’t watch.
  • Don’t engage.
  • Reach out to friends and loved ones.
 
If you notice:
  • Trouble concentrating, remembering details, and making decisions
  • Fatigue
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and helplessness
  • Pessimism and hopelessness
  • Insomnia, early-morning wakefulness, or sleeping too much
  • Irritability
  • Restlessness
  • Loss of interest in things once pleasurable, including sex
  • Overeating, or appetite loss
  • Aches, pains, headaches, or cramps that won’t go away
  • Digestive problems that don’t get better, even with treatment
  • Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” feelings
  • Suicidal thoughts or attempts  Source: https://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/detecting-depression#1
Please reach out to the Mental Health Services in your area. You don’t have to do this alone. My heart is with you, and I’m sorry you’re going through this. -Jo